I have stood for rights of Fathers for years. I think many divorced dads get the shaft especially the lower income dads. I am sure there are some bad guys that children need protection from but,for women to deny dad's visitation and constantly keep the divorce in courts are doing great harm to thier children. Children love both parents usually, if they have lived with both. Especially when they have been treated well and of course children love parents who treat them badly as well so they do need protection. I am sure that most dads do want to support their children.
I would have never forced my son's dad to loose his driving privillage or get court enforced support. I believe courts make divorces more bitter and I wish people could lean more about common decency. How people can hate the mother or father of their child is beyond me unless there was/is sever abuse. Many men have said they envy my relationship with my ex and many women have wondered how could I be friends with my ex. My ex is my friend and the father of my child. Both mother and father are important you can't have one without the other.
I know infidelity and money issues are big reasons for marital problems and divorce and it causes much bitterness on both sides. Domestic violence is rampant and getting worse as the economy gets worse.
If a man misses his child support payments beause you are out of work and your ex goes on welfare the system will suspend your drivers license, pass port, professional and business license and then if you get far enough behind they will throw you in jail.
How is suspending person's driver's license, professional and business license going to help a person catch up on their child support payments? In this economy?
I have met several older guys in this position. It is much harder for an older man who's job requires he have a drivers license or professional license to find work. With the economy the way it is. If he could just pay off his fines (which is very difficult to do when you can't work because of licensure) he would still behind on child support. It is happening more and more.
Of course I do think fathers ought to pay child support. But, that does not negate the fact that men are more likely to get the short end of the stick in court especially, if they are poor. I think instead of locking poor guys up( a tax payer burden) or, taking away their licensure and imposing all kinds of fines they ought to give them a job that allows them to actually have enough money to pay child support and be able to support them selvs too. it is alarming how fatherhood among the poor is being phased out. This is how the poor is kept poor by breaking apart familes by making the father more likely to end up in jail or on the dole themselves.